Hard as it may be for me to admit, allow me the space to do: I’m not even perfect at being imperfect. Some days I still try really hard to be a ‘supermommy’.
Sometimes I let my expectations morph into needs instead of keeping them submitted and surrendered to God’s authority. I tend to let my desire to be a “good mom”—by my standards or the world’s—become more important to me than my desire for God’s purpose for my life to manifest in my motherhood journey.
Hello Queen Mother, Woman of Favor, Faith and Awesomeness! It is May, and my heart is glad!
Your Majesty, Queen Mother, has it hit you how easily we can spend our entire lives striving for success but never finding real and lastingsignificance? Why does that happen, do you think? Could it be that we are too consumed with trying to fit into the world’s standards; instead of surrendering to God’s standards and telling Him, “If you can use anything, Lord, use me.”?
In the game of chess, the queen is the most powerful game piece on the board. Right?
The other main reason would be because the best of us women, if we’re really honest, oftentimes remain stuck in an insecure financial limbo awaiting a knight in shinning armour to save us. We may not always behave like we need or are awaiting one, much less sit on our laurels as lazy bums, but deep down, three in every five women statistically wish to be saved by a man (at least financially), because well, being ‘financially independent’, sexy as it sounds to the ‘humans from Mars’, can suck life out of you before you ‘get there’.
So you know how the bible says in Proverbs 17:22 that “a joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit drains one’s strength”? Would you say it resonates with where you’re at in life at present?
Not to say that that verse isn’t true or is probably not practical, but may you re-read that verse and take a moment to really think about what that part of scripture means to you.
Yeah, unless you’re made of stone or steel, you’ve felt emotionally pinched once or more times in your lifetime.
Above all honesty, though, life’s challenges can preoccupy and often drain the life out of us. But guess what, after everything I’ve been through in the recent past (or should I just factor in the past eight years? Oh well…), I’m learning to laugh at myself before life does. Obviously not a ha-ha, rib-wrecking, ab-forming kind-a laugh but, you know, the one in which you attain a decent sense of humour and glimmer of hope is retained within.
In my quest for a bit of sanity amidst life’s homping, I recently came across a three year-old article by Gail Rogers herself in which she unpacks her best-selling read, The Courage To Laugh.
Here are five simple steps, according to her, that could help the best of us keep a ‘light heart’ even when the world seems to be inevitably going to the dogs, and despite our best efforts, darkness almost threatens to overcome the light within . . .
But before we get to that, have you listened to Phenomenal Life with Vicky Meg? We’re about to wrap up Season 2 (Soft Life Series) amidst many challenges in the recent past, what with tech issues and what not, but let me tell you, my girls and I are warriors and we shall overcome, and the season finale is gonna be worth the wait!
Have you recovered from the events of Valentine’s Day yet? I honestly think it’s hella sad that there’s usually quite the build up towards Valentine’s Day and then everything goes back to routine the day after. I mean, at least people still keep their Christmas trees up to ten days after the actual holiday.
Honestly, if you didn’t listen to Love Me Now last week, you missed something big.
You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” —John C. Maxwell
The direction of our lives is decided more by the daily choices we make than anything else. And these choices are more influential to the person we are becoming than we often realize. But let’s be clear, to change your daily habits for the sake of personal growth, you must be ready to sacrifice something – you must lose some things to create room for the new.
Habits become ingrained, automatic, and often slowly creep into your life so subtly that they become routine. So if you want to change your life, start by changing one thing that you do each day.
But change can be hard. So let me offer today, a list of 7 simple, daily habits that will positively change your life forever.
Most of these habits can be completed in just a few minutes each day. And each of them I have seen personally alter the trajectory of my life.
You know how technology has kind of made things so easy yet complicated at the same time?
If you’re an avid reader of articles from this website, you should know the drill by now; listen to the recent episode of our PODCAST before you continue reading or you’ll be lost in oblivion.
As I was saying before I interrupted myself to remind you to listen to the podcast, you’d think that just because we’re more connected now than ever before in the history of mankind, we would actuallyfeel connected, right? But no, sorry . . .
Even before Covid-19, online dating, cyber bullying and the cancel culture made it impossible for basic human connections to be meaningful.
According to an article on singlecare.com on 21st January, 2021, the World Health Organisation has stated that clinical depression levels have hit an all-time high of 264 million people worldwide, compared to the same period, say, 10 years ago. In retrospect, that isn’t even a long time ago.
Even before mandatory social distancing brought about by the pandemic, we were already so distanced from one another – emotionally, mentally and spiritually that making meaningful connections were a thing of the past (refer to Hot Girls Wanted – a Neflix DocuSeries) – what with online dating, cyber bullying and the cancel culture.
If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll the get the same results you’ve always gotten.
So it got me thinking; what is it about our society right now that is limiting us from stretching to the point of desired growth, regardless of the pandemic? What stunts our personal development thus hindering us from living free from the shackles of limitations that only exist within?
Then I came across an eight year-old article by Jessica Hagy on Forbes.com that put things into perspective…
“These six factors can erode the grandest of plans and the noblest of intentions. They can turn visionaries into paper-pushers and wide-eyed dreamers into shivering, weeping balls of regret. Beware!” She writes.
As we journey onto to learn, relearn and unlearn new ways of ‘doing life’ in the middle of a pandemic, in order to attain our versions of “the #SoftLife”, regardless, let’s be cautious as to what those are.
First and foremost, be aware of the insidious and unspoken lessons you learned as a child. To thrive in the world outside the classroom, especially in these trying times, you’re going to have to unlearn them.
We’re still delving into what it means to live out your calling in this season of life, especially in these trying times in history.
It’s more satisfying to dig a ditch with friends than to design a skyscraper with a team of sociopaths.
Last time, we addressed where you are likely to find your calling; that ‘forgotten place’ in the intersection between your passion and your gifts (refer to previous article).
And if you haven’t listened to Season 2 Episode 1 of our podcast, which was published last Sunday, you’d better do so, to gain some insight into what this series about ‘calling’ actually entails – the kind of purposeful drive that will propel you to live your ‘heaven on earth’ aka the #softlife.
Today, let’s look at the 20 tools I have thoroughlyresearched and found to stand the test of time in our quest for that divine purpose that will yieldthe #softlife.
Not sure what to be when you ‘grow up’ (whenever that is)? Fret no more.
We can figure this out together. Let’s get started…