Will you take that lid off, please? – #FreshFriday

From here on, I declare Fridays “#FreshFridays”, because this is the day most people (almost) let their hair down in readiness for the weekend.

And what does any sane person does on weekends? Recharge their batteries, right? So while you make plans for the weekend, how about you start by reviewing how your week has been — celebrate what worked and find a solutions for what didn’t?

You know, develop a fresh, new perspective of things in pursuit of your goals.

But here’s the thing, many of us are slow learners — whether we admit it or not. And as Smokie Norful puts it in his book Take the Lid Off, we mistakenly put a lid on our lives and live with the tension of built-up pressure day in, day out, week in, week out, month in, month out, year in, year out. . . The pressure builds when our full potential isn’t being released into the world. It manifests as tension when we’re not living the life we know we were created for.

When our covered “pot” is boiling out of control, the steam of trapped potential hisses, puddles of problems gather around us, and we become so frustrated we don’t know what to do!

If we leave the lid on our lives, we run the risk of ruining what’s in the pot—our relationships, our dreams, and our goals—and stress eventually robs us of creativity and joy.

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These are the days of our lives – #TruthThursday

Complaining doesn’t serve me anymore. Like author of Heavenly Minded Mom, Katie Bennet, complaining has been a natural downfall for me throughout most of my life.

I tend to take comfort in sharing my woes.

And as Katie accounts, “Unfortunately, as I detail my difficulties to whatever kind ear is available (difficulties such as the children who are pushing limits, the husband who works late, the fussy baby, the discomforts of pregnancy, the ever-increasing grocery shopping bill, the endless household chores, and so on), not only do I fail to lift up the hearer, but I also end up feeling sorrier for myself than ever!”

I can relate to Katie’s struggle. As I think about each aspect of my plight, I become increasingly enamored with my sufferings and less fixated on the sufficiency of God. I lose sight of the abundant life available to me in Him every day.

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Burnt out, screaming for a good ole’ rest? – #WellnessWednesday

There should be a “Get Out of Your Responsibilities” card you can play on those days when life is just too difficult.

Days when life feels like a showdown between you and an awkward elementary school bully—the enemy of your heart, the teller of the lies you’re tempted to believe.

Perhaps if this battle were mine alone I might just let the bully keep on shoutin’. But I don’t believe this battle is only about me, because I’ve come to believe such are the days when everything within you wants a moment simply to be still. These thoughts flittered through my mind as I lay stretched out on the veranda floor one cold afternoon.

Anne Lamott said, “Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” God, was she right!

I never knew how hauntingly healing a cold cemented surface could be for the body, albeit unhealthy if stayed on longer.

I never realized the many facets of peace and rest available when you lay yourself down on purpose.

Peace comes in many forms. On this day it came in a ten-minute reprieve in the middle of the chaos that had become my life. There was no time to break away and do it conventionally right. No time for any long, drawn-out me-time ritualistic activities. No mani-pedi. No hot tea and biscuits. No caramel macchiato. No Dead Sea salt–infused bath.

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When your “go” call is actually to “stay” – #TransformationTuesdays

Have you been feeling bored and uninspired, twiddling your thumbs and waiting for that “still small voice” to say, “Go”? Waiting for it to call you to something new and exciting? And there you are whispering to yourself when no-one’s listening, “I want to go for it, but first my circumstances must change. . .”?

Consider this: Maybe God has already equipped you with your what I call, “The Go Suit“!” Maybe your, “Go Call,” had already come long ago when you found yourself in your current situation—but you got there and never really went. Your body arrived, but your heart stayed elsewhere. More like, as soon as you got there, you pulled up an armchair and put up your feet. Got comfortable. Got a bit complacent.

Perhaps the transformation message to you is, “Stay put, but get going!”

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Find Your Brave – #MotivationMonday

Have you ever watched the animated movie, Brave?

You know, the animation that tells the story about Merida (Kelly Macdonald), the impetuous but courageous daughter of Scottish King Fergus (Billy Connolly) and Queen Elinor (Emma Thompson).

Merida is portrayed as a skilled archer who wants to carve out her own path in life.

Her defiance of an age-old tradition angers the Highland lords and leads to chaos in the kingdom. She seeks help from an eccentric witch (Julie Walters), who grants her an ill-fated wish.

Now, Merida must discover the true meaning of courage and undo a beastly curse that has turned her mother into a huge, black, scary bear, before it’s too late.

Now, Merida must discover the true meaning of courage and undo a beastly curse that has turned her mother into a huge, black, scary bear, before it’s too late.

Imagine if you were in Merida’s shoe?You would be tempted to think that sometimes you have lost your courage and need to find it again; sometimes you need to find a whole new brave. A brave we have never needed before—and never wanted to need.

Have you been brave for anything in the past? Have you gone all in before. . . but somewhere along the way, you took a step back? Have you pulled a Peter and leaped out of the boat. . .but then as soon as you saw the wind and felt the waves, you clambered back to safety, soaking wet and soaked in shame, because Jesus or no Jesus, what kind of fool tries to walk on water? Right?

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Truth about Imagination – #TruthThursday

Imagine what life would be if we didn’t imagine!

One of the greatest gifts God has given you and me is the gift of imagination. It’s the ability to see things — to think and to create with mental pictures — in your mind.

The reason you have this gift is because God imagines. God imagined the entire universe and it was created. He thought it all up/seen it all happen in His mind, in advance. He imagined it. He “foreknew” it all.

You and I are most like our Creator — God — when we are being creative. Does that make sense? He gave us the ability to create with our imagination. When we use our imagination for good, God smiles.

Everything starts with imagination. Period. Nothing becomes reality unless somebody thinks of it. Right?

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Mind, body and spirit balance – #WellnessWednesday

During this decade, not only did I quit taking sugar, fizzy drinks, white bread and alcohol (I haven’t taken sugar in, what, seven years? I haven’t touched alcohol since 2012 and walked out on white bread about five years ago while fizzy drinks and I haven’t been mates for about three years now), but I also learnt the importance of mind, body and spirit health — the three-tier connection. And may I just say it has been some of the toughest lessons I’ve ever had to learn. I mean sugar addiction is a disease, man.

I remember sneaking a bit of sugar into my beverages even when I was sure I was alone😂. But that’s a story for another time. Let’s rather focus on the mind, body and spirit balance first.

I’ve learnt that one important factor plays a role in this three-tier balance – time.

See, time management is not just keeping busy but choosing a direction and moving ahead to accomplish your goals, without dangling on the thin line between being busy and being productive.

Managing time is one of the most difficult yet helpful skills anyone – especially a woman – can develop. It takes maximum effort and realistic planning and an unshakeable support system.

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Being Woman – #TransformationTuesday

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Wouldn’t you like to look in the mirror each day and find a reflection that is becoming more and more attractive? And it be yours?

I remember being a teen-mom and a freshman in university, boggled by responsibilities well beyond my years at the time, yearning for a life I felt I was missing out on [coupled with] fret parties, late nights and what have you.

I remember looking in the mirror wishing I was somebody else. Wishing I had it just a tad easier than my classmates. Hoping I’d look back one day when I’m older, and laugh at what I thought I was missing out on at the time.

I remember a close final-year friend from my country told me I’d love motherhood one day and will never wish I’d had it any other way. She was right.

Millions of us deplete our fortunes to cover flaws and attempt to defy gravity—for the sole aim of attaining greater personal beauty. We want to be beautiful and we want to be perceived as beautiful. Right? Read more